Acceptance vs Giving Up
I have a hard time with acceptance and from what I can tell I'm not the only one. I think that it is particularly hard for people of western cultures because we are so performance driven. Society teaches us that we should dominate nature, situations, and the people around us - mold the world to fit our desires. We are taught that anything else is weakness or giving up. I believe that more accurately this is denial and denial comes with a high price - frustration, stress, and anger for starts. For me it almost cost me my sanity. I have a situation in my life that I refused to accept for a long while . I would not allow it to be true because it wasn't the way that I wanted it to be. The situation didn't fit my mental blueprint of how things should be. I found myself behaving in ways that I wouldn't normally behave. I couldn't sleep. All because I wouldn't accept the reality of the situation.
Acceptance does not mean giving up. Acceptance is the place to start. It is ground zero - reality - the foundation to build upon. I've begun to accept my situation. It's not what I want, but it is what it is. I hope that the situation develops, but for now I'm facing the reality of life. There's a lesson in there for me and I need to learn what life is trying to teach me. After that maybe it will change and maybe it won't. I'll have to accept it either way.
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Posted by Dan Garner