|If the world didn't suck, we'd all fall off!|
When your relationship has ended, you've lost your job, your dog has died, and everything sucks....being mindful doesn't seem helpful. Meditation doesn't work. You sit quietly and think of how shitty life is. You read an article on being grateful and think "Grateful, for what?"
You reflect on life and all that you can think of is how he or she screwed you over. Then you remember how stupid you were to ever take that job instead of the other job. What a catastrophe life has become. Why did it turn out this way?
Where do you go now? What do you do? How do you get out of this shit-trap life has dealt you?
Once the negative thinking of the amygdala has been triggered it's a negative spiral. It's a lot of work to pull out of the tailspin.
Sometimes you just need to STOP. Just stop and catch your breath. Don't dig the hole any deeper.
Remove any negative influences from your life. Now isn't the time to deal with the people, places, or things that bring you down or drain your energy. Take a few minutes to identify the black holes in your life and distance yourself from them.
Purge. Take out a tablet and have a bitch session for yourself. Go ahead and be a cry-baby for a few minutes or hours - just don't stay there. Write it down and be done with it. BURN the pages when you are done. Let it go - get the poison out of your system.
When you begin to feel rested then get out and do something relaxing. Take a walk, a drive, play golf, or whatever...just get out of your head. Do something that helps you to forget your worries.
Make sure you are taking care of yourself: getting rest, eating properly, and getting some exercise. Often when we are stressed or things aren't going our way our self care goes out the window. WRONG ANSWER. Move, eat, and sleep. Do it whether you feel like it or not. Things will only get worse if you don't.
Now that you have rested and given yourself a break, maybe... just maybe, you'll see a little sunshine, notice someone's smile and there'll be room for a little gratefulness, a little meditation, and a little healing.
Then you can think about crawling out of that hole.
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