Do You Care? Enough?



Life is confusing, complicated, and sometimes painful.  There is no question that we all face a daily barrage of feelings of inadequacy, fear, and outright confusion.  The question is "How do I react to this?"

We often react in a manner to protect ourselves from fear, pain, and feelings of being inadequate with avoidance or addictive behaviors.  We use drugs, alcohol, television, our jobs, or even codependent relationships to hide from our pain. When these things don't work we blame others and become manipulative.  Surely we're not to blame for our own pain, it must be someone else's fault.  At this point we've given away our power and the responsibility for our own happiness.  We typically react by withdrawing further or we start to try to manipulate others and situations in the external world.  Since our happiness and well being relies on everyone and everything 'out there', we need to control and manipulate and that leads to deeper feelings of unworthiness and emptiness.

The harder choice, which must be made every moment of every day, is to maintain responsibility for our own lives - including our happiness and sense of worth.  In order to do this we must not turn away from pain.  We must care enough for ourselves, for life, and for others to face the hard feelings and learn the lessons that they provide.  We have to open up to learning about our fears, our shame, our feelings of being unworthy and come to understand the source of these misunderstandings, and how to nurture them until we are whole again.   Hiding, avoiding, and numbing will not make our pain go away.  Only by leaning in and facing ourselves can we learn what truly brings love and fulfillment.  Reaping the benefits of being a fully alive and spiritual being requires caring enough to do the hard work and leaning into it no matter what.

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Not Enough

Some of the time, or even most of the time is not enough. 
Not for a puppy, not for a child, or for someone in need. 
Day in, day out is what we need.

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Pain and Beauty

I have found that the amount of joy and beauty that we experience in life is equal to the amount of pain we are open to.  This doesn't mean that we have to hurt all of the time.  It means that we must allow ourselves to be vulnerable and be strong enough to allow ourselves to experience pain in order to fully appreciate beauty and love.

Be brave, it's worth it.

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