One of the strongest human needs is the desire for love and appreciation. Approval and connection are two ways that we try to fill this need. While both may feel very similar emotionally, they are very different in method and result.
Seeking approval often requires that we change - to do or become what we perceive that others want us to do or be. It is very conditional and can be suffocating.
Seeking connection requires that we let our guard down, bare our souls. It can be frightening but results in authentic relationships that are deeply fulfilling.
One is based upon pretense, the other truth. Your choice.
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Authenticity, Relationships, True Self.