Get rid of "should" and "have to". Do What You Want.
Does that sound like responsible advice?
I'm afraid that's what you must do to take full responsibility for your life. Notice that I didn't say do what you feel like doing. You may not feel like going to the grocery store this afternoon but want to because you want to eat.
This is not just semantics. Anytime we use the words "should" or "have to" we are shirking responsibility. We are saying either we have no choice or that we're trying to live up to someone else's idea of what we should do with our lives. Having no choice is a lie and living to someone else's expectations is a sad mistake.
Look closely at your life. What pressures do you feel to do something or be somewhere? Why? Is it because you want to? If not, look deeper.
There is nowhere we must be and nothing we must do if we are taking full responsibility for our actions.
If you still feel pressure to do something then at least admit to yourself - I want to do this because I don't have the strength to say no or to let 'so and so' down. Be honest with yourself and remove your excuses. You will find your attitude will change drastically and you might even muster the courage to say no a little more often.
Try a little soul searching to find what you want in life, then do the things that will bring it about.
Identify the things that you don't want to do and stop doing them.
This is not an exercise for the faint of heart. Don't even waste your time if you're not willing to go deep and work with it. .
Using this method and a few of the following ideas can turn your life around:
Instantly Improve Your Life with One Step
Proven Methods to Improve Your Happiness
Learning to Live In the Present Moment
Six Steps for Building Strength
Thoughts + Energy = Your Reality
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I found this method and other great ideas in Supercoach: 10 Secrets to Transform Anyone's Life by Michael Neill
Zen Presence - Ideas for Meaningful Living