Is it important?



As I listen to the many conversations that I hear each day, my own included, I wonder at their purpose. We ramble about the weather, a sporting event last weekend, a television ad...... I know we're just trying to connect or to fill an awkward silence, but why all the meaningless jabber? 

Why do we have so much to say about trivial things and so little to say about important things?

When was the last time that you spoke your heart to your spouse, your mother, or your child?

Did you voice your true opinion on company policy the last time that you talked to your boss or business partner, or did you just say what they wanted to hear?

Are you giving of your true self in your conversation?

Are you bringing something to the table or just showing up?

Is it important?



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7 comments:

  1. That is why I like getting out into nature, especially camping. My whole family is quieter in the woods because you will miss the experience of nature if you are jabbering.
    "Be still and know..."

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    1. The outdoors are a great place to get your head on straight and figure out what is important in life and I always feel bettter.

      Thanks Diane.

      Dan

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  2. I love this quote from Shirdi Sai Baba “Before you speak ask yourself: Is it kind, is it necessary, it is true, does it improve upon the silence?”


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    1. Excellent quote. Thanks for sharing.

      Dan

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  3. I've found that, without pop culture and television as a potential conversation topic, I have much more interesting discussions with people.

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  4. In my experience plenty of our meaningless conversations can be put down to politeness. Once certain topics are off limits, small talk becomes the only valid conversational option. Ideally, the closer people feel to each other the more of their true self they'll be sharing.

    And silence can be overwhelming. It is when one's soul whispers its truths. It takes guts to face that truth, especially if one has been jabbering the whispers into submission for a long time.

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  5. Hi Dan,

    I do think a lot of us are accustomed to filling the silence with our own voices, whether or not we actually have something meaningful to say. It would be wonderful to have more conversations where we have more substance to what we say or we don't say anything at all.

    Kim

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